24 Nov Imposter Syndrome
There can be a problem with success!
Some successful people suffer from imposter syndrome – they don’t think they are deserving of the success they have had. Many people can suffer from this occasionally.
We do well in an exam, perhaps even receiving a prize, but regard it as a fluke. We achieve our sales target, or we get promoted at work, but convince ourselves we just happened to be in the right place at the right time, through no efforts of our own.
One of the things that is happening here is that we are externalising our success. We are attributing the cause of our success to factors that are outside of our control; to factors external to ‘us’.
But apart from a genuine fluke, such as winning the lottery, there will be SOMETHING we have done that led to our success. And even with buying the lottery, you have to buy a ticket to be in the game. And it is you who bought the ticket, not someone else (because that would be stealing!).
By internalising some part of our success, by admitting to our self that we did play some part in it, we are taking responsibility for our own success.
Black Belts internalise anything and everything they can. They take personal responsibility for things that go wrong, so that they can learn and make changes, and for things that go right.
This is a big topic, which will be revisited another time. It ties in to self esteem, which is covered in more detail in Black Belt Thinking.
If you would like to discuss any aspect of imposter syndrome, please get in touch.
Action point – to start with something that is relatively straight-forward, the next time someone gives you a compliment, take it. Ask yourself why they went out of their way to give you this compliment? What quality does this show about you? What did YOU do that led to this happening?